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As many of my readers know, I am strongly opposed to feminists. Not the idea of feminism, but the way that it's sometimes carried out by women.

Yesterday I posted about a women who strongly influenced many lives through the art of femininity, something that is apparently very offensive to many women who are more in touch with the feminist movement (or perhaps something else that angered them, I'm not sure.) Now, while I believe everyone has the right to their own thoughts, beliefs and opinions . . . I also believe in expressing them appropriately.

For instance:

I believe marriage is between a man and a woman.
I believe in God.
I believe that abortion is wrong.

I have gay friends - and I do not attack their lifestyle.
I have atheist friends - and I do not shove scripture in their face.
I have friends who are pro-choice - and I do not accuse them of murder.

There are ways of expressing your beliefs and still showing respect. While I am republican and conservative, I can still appreciate the sense of pride that my black friends experienced when Obama was elected. While I am a Latter-Day Saint, I still smile brightly when my mainstream Christian aunt, or my Baptist Grandmother speaks about Jesus, or my Agnostic friend talks about God.

Whether or not you believe in something, it can still be good. The feminist movement caused a great change in our world, some change I believe was very good, other changes I believe were bad. Which is why you will never find me on any pro-feminist site, bashing Betty Friedan and anyone who says she made a difference. Honestly, if I were to say anything negative about her, I would do it on my own site.

And that is what makes me curious about people who comment. While I appreciate all comments, I do not understand why feminists come to my blog of all places to tell me that they are disgusted with women who believe in marital equality (because they think women should be more powerful) or insist that me and "my kind" (I'm assuming housewives or women who believe in femininity) are a drag on society and are ruining women around the world.

Likewise I would not understand any Christian going onto an atheists website and proclaiming that they are going to hell. Or a homosexual going onto a conservative website and bashing them there. Or a white supremacists going into any anti-racist movement.

What is the purpose of spreading hate in someone else's home. Would you walk into your neighbors house and wipe dirt on the walls? No. If you're going to speak your beliefs (hatefully) you do it in your own home. So don't come to my blog (or anyone elses' blog) and spread hate. You have your own blog for that I assume. Show respect for the people, even if you don't respect the beliefs and ideas.

Should I ever say, "What do the liberals/feminists/democrats/etc think about this?" on my blog, I fully expect those who read to give me their full and honest opinion, as I have done in the past when I've read a request for comments from someone like me.

This isn't a political blog where I'm discussing in deep the differences of the world at large and how that impacts life. I don't dive into the comments section to argue at great lengths with those who might disagree with me. There are plenty of websites like that, and I frankly don't get much out of them.

So to those feminists who left comments full of disgust, hate, and negativity yesterday (and any other day) in regards to my beliefs about femininity, feminism, conservatism or anything else you don't happen to agree with . . . take it somewhere else. Negative comments are deleted. Why would I leave them there for others to read? Negativity and hatefulness will be deleted as easily as a comment full of vulgarity, or spam. If I want vulgarity, hate and negative comments on this blog, believe me, I will be the one to put them here. Then you're free to go to your own blog and whine and complain about how much I suck.

Now, for the record, I do have friends (best friends) who disagree with me on certain subjects when it comes to politics, etc. And I wanted to showcase one of them, to show EXACTLY how a polite, appropriate, respectful and decent person leaves a comment, even when they don't agree:

April said...
Sorry this has such an impact on you! But having such a legacy - she will definitely be remembered! Of course you know I didn't agree with all she wrote - but like you said - she changed your life! So that's what counts.

So thank you April, and all other friends who know how to be adults. Who know how to show love, kindness and respect when you're in someone elses' home/blog, while still expressing your beliefs and not disrespecting anyone elses'. There is a reason my welcome mat is still displayed for you.