I'm a Half-Way Help Meet

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If you've been a follower of my blog for a while, you'll notice that I have a bit of an obsession with becoming a good wife. I've read countless books to help in my journey, here is a small list:

• Happy Housewives
• Sink Reflections
• Momstown Guide to Getting It All
• Fascinating Womanhood
• Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage 
• The Surrendered Wife 

And Created to Be His Help Meet! Which is actually going on in a study group over at the Happy Housewives Club forums. So I thought I would write my thoughts here, and share them with others in addition to posting on the forums and writing in my personal journal.

I've done this study group once before and have read the book also on my own. This time, I'll be reading it in addition to doing The Love Dare.

The last time I did the Created to Be His Help Meet study, it really helped my marriage. I find that every book I read and apply does something to help, so I'm hoping that going through this a second time will get me back on track. The first time, things were new and on occasion hard. Not because I didn't want to do them, but because they were so different from how I acted that sometimes, so my husband didn't believe it. So now, I hope that I can get over the "this is really me" thing, and go a little deeper.

When it comes to gender roles in marriage, I was raised by feminists mostly. Not the bra burning femi-nazis, but women who were forced into that role either by abuse, divorce or economic hardships. I'm one of very few women in my family to still be married. I'm one of few women in my family to get married before getting pregnant. And aside from my older sister, I am the ONLY stay at home wife in my entire family that I know of. Women worked. Women were not only equal to men, but possibly superior. We were more mature, therefore smarter and better at handling money, business and important decisions. And this is only IF you got married, after all, he's either going to beat you or cheat on you. That's what usually happened.

I've always been different tho. Aside from little girl dreams of being an actress/singer/veterinarian, I've always wanted to be a housewife and nothing else. That was my dream. The husband and I joke and say that aside from our technology addictions (internet for me, video games for him) we should have been born somewhere between the 1930's-1950's. We watch The Honeymooners, Dick Van Dyke and even Little House on the Prairie and think how good we "could have had it".